本研究旨從台灣男性的觀點理解經自由戀愛結合的跨國婚姻之發展歷程，在跨國婚姻中所扮演之角色與經驗，以及所面臨到的文化差異的挑戰與衝突之狀況。本研究採質性研究之詮釋現象學，採半結構式訪談，蒐集三位與東南亞籍配偶結婚之台灣男性個人獨特生命經驗的感受與想法，包含男性對婚前的看法、對伴侶的考量與擇偶條件，以及在婚姻中的感受。研究結果發現，跨國婚姻中除了太太需要適應來台生活，台灣男性同時也在經歷跨國婚姻中所遇到的困境，包含文化差異、經濟支柱的展現、夫妻之間之互動與衝突、及男性在婚姻中擔任不同角色之間所遇到的困難。在婚姻的生活經驗中，與太太共同經驗這些困境並且培養出夫妻之間的默契與模式。丈夫若主動同理妻子的狀況，將之視為婚姻共同困境並提供協助，夫妻間的關係與情感在互相理解與陪伴中成長，太太也能更快適應與融入跨國婚姻的家庭生活。 The purpose of this study was to understand the course of transnational marriage of free love from the perspective of Taiwanese men, as well as their role and experience in such relationship, including also the challenges and conflicts due to cultural differences.This study adopted hermeneutic phenomenology of qualitative research, using semi-structured interviews to collect the feelings and thoughts of three Taiwanese men married to Southeast Asian spouses about their unique life experiences, including men's views on pre-marriage, their consideration of partners and their criteria for choosing a spouse, and their feelings during marriage.The results showed that in addition to the wives’ need to adapt to life in Taiwan, Taiwanese men also experience the difficulties encountered in transnational marriage, including cultural differences, financial support, the interaction and conflict between the spouses, and the difficulties encountered by men in playing different roles in marriage. In the life experience of marriage, the men would have to share the difficulties with their wives and eventually develop a mutual understanding and communication between themselves. If a husband takes the initiative to empathize with his wife's situation, regard it as a common dilemma of marriage and provide assistance, the relationship and emotion between husband and wife will grow in mutual understanding and companionship, and the wife will be able to adapt and integrate into the family life of transnational marriage more quickly.
